AM I THINKING WHAT I'M THINKING

Have you ever stopped to listen to your thoughts? Are you aware of what you are thinking? Famous self help author Napoleon Hill states that " thoughts are things and powerful things". Even though we know this, many of us tend to not spend time paying attention to our thoughts. But our thoughts are what drives our personality, our character, our actions and inaction and ultimately our success or lack of success. 

Here is one cool method that I use to get myself thinking about what I'm thinking; it's called the WHY method. The WHY method is done by continuously asking yourself why until you get to the real bone of what's driving your decisions. For example; you have a project to complete and you keep on delaying. Ask yourself why am I putting this off? Be very aware of your answer or write it down. Then to that answer ask yourself why do you feel this way? To every answer ask yourself why until you get to the real reason behind you delaying. 

The next time you find yourself with a negative thought or feeling afraid, continuing a habit that you desperately want to change or failing to start an action that you want to make a new habit, begin asking yourself the WHY question and write your answers down. You will unearth your biggest insecurities and hopefully taking steps to quieten them. 

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Danni

Regaining My Grit in 2020

 This year for most people worldwide has been filled with too many negative emotions. So it not strange to lose our grit and find it challenging to move on. Here are 4 simple steps that will take you back from being in that slump to running your race to the finishing line.

1. The bible states, " write the vision and make it plain" which to me is telling the importance of not just writing and or rewriting our goals but placing them in an area where they become visible to you. I also encourage committing your goals to God. 

2. Set the restart date and stick to it. I would encourage setting the restart date to be now. Putting things off for a later date only allows us to push it further away. 

3. Get rid of your distractions. If you have an abundance of fear determine what's the reason for you being fearful? Verbally talking yourself into taking action when your fear is prompting you to be inactive works. Also thinking about the repercussion of not taking action also helps to drive us towards action. 

4. Visualize your end goal. What is the purpose of this goal, what will it look like when the goal is accomplished? If you are a very visual person having a  vision board to remind you of what the accomplishment of this goal looks like will help. 

Now is the time to get back on track if you have fallen behind.

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Danni

THE PURPOSE AND THE PLAN

"You might have more talent than me, you might be smarter than me, you might be sexier than me, you might be all of those things you got it on me in nine categories. But if we get on the treadmill together, there's two things: You're getting off first, or I'm going to die." Will Smith

Most of us have great admiration for athletes. Which is why we spend hours watching football on a Sunday or basketball during NBA season. I believe we are smitten by the fact that these people are able to defy the odds and break barriers. Most of us attribute their success to talent. However, if you have ever sat and listened to athletes being interviewed about their success you will hear them speak of the hours spent on the court when no one else was watching, executing the plan that drives their purpose.

Talent means nothing these days. Almost anything we desire to excel at can be accomplished if we do one little thing, its called putting in the work.

Each time I write there is a little voice in my head reminding me that I am not a great writer. But if I stop and listen, I would never complete a sentence. Each time we practice, each time we rehearse, each time we become laser focused at completing the task we set out to complete, we become stronger, better, more skilled.

Never allow the thoughts of your limitations to step into your driver's seat. We tend to underestimate what we are capable of achieving. Design a strategy, put your plan in action, let's EXECUTE!!!!

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Danni

Newly Hired and Newly Pregnant!!!! Why Do I Feel Ashamed???

Being pregnant is supposed to be an exciting time in your life. But here I was; hiding myself. I had just started a new job and was newly pregnant. I remember leaving employee health and wellness crying to my husband on the phone. I remember talking to my girlfriend Pat and having meltdowns.

After all why would I be ashamed of being pregnant? To find the answer I began analyzing my thoughts and really thinking why this was such an emotional journey for me. It could not be the fact that we had only planned on having two. Could it be the fact that my last had not yet turned two? It had to be more than all these things. What was the cause of my emotions towards this baby?

The Answer:

Peoples' impression of me.  I cared so much about how I may be percieved that I traumatised myself into thinking; becoming a mom one more time meant I was careless and didn't have a handle on my life. I allowed myself to believe that I was going to be viewed as a liability to the team at work versus an asset. I saw them judging me, even saw them gossiping me. And to think it was all self imposed, self inflicted, negative self talk.

Pushing Back:

It is so important that we begin the radical journey in changing the perception we have of ourselves. I honestly believe we can only begin doing this by making a conscious effort to listen to the conversations in our heads. Sometimes the negative self talk is loud, those we tend to pick up quickly and address. But it's those small talks, those idle in head conversations when we feel fear and doubt.

You and I both know we were created for a beautiful purposeful life. Do not self sabotage. Bring confidence to the table at all times. Do not allow it to be invoked only when we are applauded but begin learning to applaud yourself in the dark when no one else is looking and listening.

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Danni

FOREVER A DREAM???

I find myself living my parents legacy. Growing up we were always looking for a more opportune time to get thing done, a more appropriate time to get together another time to stop and do family time. Not sure if we were looking to a time when our lives would be better or we just wished for better but accepted our reality as what is our lot.

I would like to tell myself that I refuse to live like that, but I wonder if I have really escaped that reality MENTALLY. I think that's my constant quest and a theme that probably runs through most of my posts. How do we really break the cycle? How do we really make that mental shift that eventually changes our actions and reroutes our destiny? 

I have read my share of self help books and has turned to psychology. Reason being, I genuinely want to find the answer to that question, what really causes the mental shift? I am pretty sure I will find it, as I continue my life long quest for greatness, balance and more!!!!!!

Grow with me.

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Danno

LIVING THE LIMITED LIFE Part 2

After writing my last post where I passionately expressed my most intimate thoughts about my decisions thus far and how they have created a reality that I dare to say is unacceptable, the question was posed to me, " so where do you go from here?" Pretty interesting right?

1. I have clearly identified not only that there is a problem that it is systemic to my personality which is preventing me from growing in the way I need to grow in order to accomplish my goals.

2. I have clearly taken ownership of the problem not blaming anyone, or any circumstance for my situation.

3. I know some of the steps that need to be taken in order to make my dream a reality.

Embodied in the question " where do you go from here"? Is the real question. Are you READY to take the steps needed to move forward, or will I still be blogging about this issue next year this time?

So I pose the question not just to you but most importantly to myself, IS DANIELLE GOING TO TAKE THOSE STEPS NECESSARY FOR HER GROWTH? Do I really want success that badly or am I still in the valley of indecision? Am I ready and willing to step out into my purpose, my calling, my blessing?

Deep down I know the answer, and you do too.

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Danni

LIVING THE LIMITED LIFE

When I wrote my last blog I justified stepping back into my comfort zone, I justified what I call " building my business while working a 9 to 5". But if the truth be told, I am where I am because I fear stepping into my greatness. I am where I am, because I am afraid to use my gift to sell myself. I am where I am because I choose to be a home owner with a mortgage versus a home owner with multiple income producing properties. I am where I am because every year, I have amazing plans but I fail to execute. I am where I am, because the year that I had home with my son, I SHOULD have perfected my craft, instead I accepted what others said my lot would be. Subconsciously I believed them and instead of working harder, and smarter, and better, I sabotaged myself with mediocrity. I am where I am because even though my greatness is next to me, God cannot bless me, because I am not yet at the level of maturity that He requires of me.

So when my five year old cries when I cannot get her from school early because I'm hustling two jobs or struggling to get home after a two hour commute, I can only blame me. And when my one year old holds on to my legs when I drop him off at the baby sitter and cries because he does not want me to leave him, I can only blame me. And when my husband reminds me of the pending car payments that financially stretch us, I can only blame myself.

Poverty is not a curse. It's a state of mind.

"And prove me now says the Lord of host if I will not open to you the windows of Heaven and pour you out such a blessing that there will not be room enough to receive it." The Bible.

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Danni