MY BIGGEST BLESSINGS

Last week one of my girlfriends texted me for my birthday and asked me how I was doing. As usual I responded about the family, my parents, work and I felt that covered the basics. Then she asked me "outside of you being a mom and kids, how are "you" doing?" I sort of didn't really know how to answer that question and probably still don't, because everything in my life is so intertwined, its hard to separate the various pieces. 

As I self reflect, life is hard, I am a mom, I am a wife, I am a breadwinner in my home, I have big goals and amazingly big dreams. I am also a caregiver to my mom who has been experiencing declining health and also the guardian of an aunt in a nursing home whose health issues are even more complicated than my mom's. 

If you know me personally, you probably wouldn't understand or even believe the level of responsibility, and that for me is my biggest blessing. My biggest blessing is that God has blessed me with the ability to view life through the lenses of my blessings versus viewing the hardships that I face. I strongly believe that there are beauties and blessings in all of our hardships. At this point in my life I get to spend time with my mom, I get to be available for my aunt and make decisions and advocate for her care when no one else was available, I get my dad and mom to help us raise our kids when it would have been even harder if they were not here. 

Back to the "how am I doing" question,  I feel incredibly blessed. I dance with my kids, I go apple picking with my cousin, and I get to see my church family and enjoy that community on the weekend. I get to refine and redefine my strength.

 

Btw.... if you are overwhelmed, ALWAYS ASK FOR HELP!!!!

What’s your biggest blessing? 

 

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A TRUE BUFF BAY PORTLANDER GIRL!!!!!

 

AN UNKEPT PROMISE

Last Friday morning when I left my home I promised my baby girl Krissy that I would be right back. All I needed to do was drive about 20 minutes to drop my older kids off to school, then twenty minutes back home. As I drove home I chatted on the phone with my husband, relaying a few events that happened the day before. As I pulled into an intersection to make a left turn 5 minutes from my house, I was rear ended by a distracted driver. My day changed after that. All the plans I had for the next few hours were exchanged by cops, ambulance, EMT and a trip to the emergency room. 

I promised Krissy I would be right back. 

Nothing is promised, live in the moment, invest in experiences with your loved ones, put your financials in order, most importantly strengthen your relationship with God. 

I promised Krissy I would be right back.

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE LECKY'S

GUTS, GRIT AND DELUSIONAL CONFIDENCE

 

Earlier today I had a little chat about confidence with my eight year old daughter. I told her about an interview that I watched with Patricia Bright, a British youtuber who is extremely successful. One of things I admire about Patricia Bright is her confidence on camera. During the interview Patricia spoke about what she calls " delusional confidence" its the type of confidence that you have when it doesn't occur to you that you can actually fail. Man can I have some of that? 

I think back on the days when migrating to the US as a foreign student and working my way through college was the only option. That took delusional confidence. During that time, it never occurred to me that I could fail. Was is challenging? Yes, did I pull through? Absolutely. But it took guts, grit and delusional confidence. 

Stop telling yourself NO. I saw a quote today that said, "Pray Big! Then stand back and see what God will do.

 

One Love

Danni

BUILDING MY DREAM, ONE TENANT AT A TIME!!!!

 

PERSEVERING DOWN THE WRONG PATH

A few nights ago, I got up and was in prayer and heard God say to me "blog about persevering down the wrong path".  So here I am writing a blog about persevering down the wrong path.

Lately I have been feeling unaligned and out of focus with the things that fuel and drive me. I shared with my girlfriends that I was on this career journey that leaves me unfulfilled. I am just not fueling my true passions and purpose as I believe I should. Have you ever felt that tug? If you have, you know the intensity of the feeling. 

One of the stories in the bible I love is the story of Joseph. I would suggest (even if you are not a Christian) to spend some time reading it. In that story we see Joseph persevering and working hard and being successful, but it is clear that it is the wrong path.

Here are the lessons I have learned from this story:

 1. There are times when we are persevering down the wrong path, but we are not clear on our purpose and the true path that God intends for us. If that is how you feel, work hard, be intentional about your learning and mentorship and seek opportunities for growth. It will become very clear what your purpose is and what you should do.        

2. There are times when we are persevering down the wrong path and we are clear about our purpose and the true path God intends for us, during those times put together a strategy and set a deadline for moving into your calling. 

Don't allow fear to keep you persevering down the wrong path. 

 

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A REAL ESTATE INVESTOR, A MOM, A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE.

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WHY I'VE BEEN MISSING

A few days ago I did a real estate video and you all were like, "Danni we want our blog back". So I’m easing back into blogging. I will say you guys have been hanging with me week after week. But its been hard lately. I have been exhausted, burned out and little energy for any creativity. I am also working on increasing my real estate business so please head over to my YouTube channel HERE and show the sister some love.

Now it would not be me if I did not share something motivational. Guys it is time to roll up those sleeves, muscle up and be on your grind. Adding income, more money, more money, more money, because even my 3 year old can spell and define inflation these days. 

If you have not begun doing so, please stop relying on one income stream, go use that talent God blessed you with and bring in that extra cash.

We learned one lesson from covid, only one stream of income is so 2019.

 

One Love 

Danni 

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE

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LOVE LETTER TO MY YOUNGER SELF PART 1.

 

Hi Danielle,

I am now 40 years old and here are some life lessons I would love to pass on to you.

1. Invest in yourself- Outside of your academic pursuits, spend time and money into your growth. Take a class on investing and wealth building, management, learn people skills. Spend less time on the TV and more time reading books that will uplift you.  

2. Spend less money, invest more- I know you are not a big spender, however dedicate a percentage of your income towards investing on the stock market. Its way easier than you think. 

3. Do your best- Do not do things halfway. Put your all into what you are doing with love and passion.

4. Control yourself- Become more disciplined. Control your desires and appetites. 

5. Before becoming a wife and a mom, explore the world.

 

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE

NUGGETS FROM "ABUNDANCE NOW" by Lisa Nichols

 

Reading is an amazing thing. Leaders are readers. Encourage the young ones in your life to read.

Here are some juicy nuggets from Lisa Nichols' book "Abundance Now". 

1. To experience true abundance you have to embrace your current life.

2. Pursue health and wellness with vigor so you'll be ready for life's great adventures.

3. Unclear goals make producing clear results impossible.

4. Self development is a greater commitment and a greater requirement than self sacrifice. 

5. Abundant prosperous people have a tendency towards action. 

6. If you never give yourself permission to fail, you've never given yourself permission to succeed. 

7. Be clear about your non-negotiables

8. When you reflect on your life journey, you'll clearly see that the moments you were most alive are the moments when you loved the deepest, laughed the loudest, danced the hardest, and forgave the quickest. 

One Love

Danni

Praying for healing as our church family lay our young church brother to rest. 

A realtor "A MOM" a daughter of the Northshore. 

 

TIPS FOR STAYING STRONG DURING HARD TIMES

Earlier today I had a conversation with my brother about a former classmate of his. What was interesting about his classmate was how he personally struggled with poverty. My brother recalled how as classmates they all would share their lunch with this young man because he most times did not have his own. However, he never complained, always wore a smile and excelled in school. My brother wrapped up that conversation by saying " hard times produce strong people". 

Here are some tips for staying strong during hard times:

1. Hold on to your faith- pray more, trust God more.

2. Exercise gratitude- there is always something to say thank you for, make a habit to highlighting the positive. 

3. Form new positive habits- like exercising. 

4. Find your support system- many of us find our support system in church. It can also be a book club or a group of friends.

5. Stay away from negativity- The news is number one on my hit list for making me sad. I stay away from it as much as possible. 

 

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE

 

DETERMINED AND DEDICATED

Today as I watched my two year old ride her bike, I could not help but be impressed with her dedication and determination. 

As I sit thinking of all the things I started and stopped, the many blessings that came my way and the many times I dropped the ball only to restart and stop again, I can only attribute my failures to one thing, lack of determination. 

Half way through the year as we reevaluate the progress of our goals, lets push forward with renewed strength, focus and drive. If you want it badly, then its worth working hard for. 

Push yourself like your child's life depended on it.

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE. 

 

IT GETS BETTER WITH TIME-The Shelly Ann Fraser effect

Mom and dad aging like fine wine

 As we get older we begin to slow down and modify our dreams and goals. Instead of desiring growth we adjust and make assumptions that this is all that life has to offer us. We become accepting of less and that drive for greatness diminishes. 

This month I set a new goal. I am training myself to run track. I desperately want to compete in track competitions and push my body to the absolute limit. 

My motivation: Shelly Ann Fraser Pryce. I have been so inspired by Shelly's career because she has broken the stereotypes and has excelled as she gets older. For example, so many female athletes after becoming parents tend to loose their ability to perform. Shelly has not only been consistent but has been running her personal bests since becoming a mom. 

The take away: It does not matter your circumstance, you can break barriers and become a better version of yourself. Set high goal, regardless of circumstance, age, credentials and the list goes on. Fight for becoming your absolute best self. 

 

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE

 

STEPPING OUT IN FAITH

In Jamaica we like to say "you should stick with the evil that you know". But like everything else, that statement has its place. 

 

I take the express bus into lower Manhattan. Usually to get to my destination I would take the bus into the city then jump on the train. A few days ago another express bus came before the usual bus that I am accustomed to. I felt compelled to take the earlier bus, but wasn't very confident I knew the route. I had an idea of where it went but did not know it well enough to be comfortable jumping on. Instead of hesitating I jumped on figuring I didn't have much to loose. Turns out that bus was five minutes walk from my destination.

 

The lesson Iearned was there are times we have to step out in faith into the unknown and trust the process. Nothing that’s worth having comes easily. It instead comes through hard work, dedication but most of all faith. 

 

One Love

 

Danni

 

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE. 

 

FIVE HACKS TO REST AND RECOVERY

My husband always tells me that I sleep too much. I tell him that he is chronically sleep deprived. I hate the feeling of exhaustion. But being exhausted these days seems like a normal way of life for most Americans as many of us cannot get through the day without caffeine. 

Here are some hacks that I have used to optimize my sleep.

1. Be consistent with the time you go to bed and your night routine
2. Get a good wind down routine- It may be reading a good book, journaling or sipping (unsweetened) tea. 
3. Get off the phone- Cell phones, TV and our devices alter our hormonal levels and prevent our bodies from producing the hormones we need to fall asleep. It is recommended to put away our devices at least 1.5 hours prior to bed. Even though you may fall asleep your body may not go through your sleep cycle efficiently making you feel exhausted after a full nights sleep.
4. Black Out Curtains- If you live in a city where street lights are always beaming through the window, get black out curtains and keep your room dark.
5. Keep the room cool- Studies have shown that keeping your room cooler vs warmer or hot optimizes your sleep and makes your rest more restful.

 

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE

 

BUBBLES IN THE PARK

 

A few days ago Yke (pronounced Ike) and I took the kids to the park and we had a blast. All we did was make bubbles with our bubble machine, flew our kites, throw a frisbee, and teach the kids to ride their bikes. 

My reason for me telling you this is to encourage you to find and explore those little things that bring you joy and satisfaction. Yes we all have big goals, big dream, and we get frustrated when our plans do not seem to go the way we had hoped. However, find your "sweet things" and enjoy them. 

Here are a few things that bring me joy that I allow myself to explore:

1. Making a meal I have never made before.

2. Teaching my kids to ride their bikes.

3. Gardening (this is new)

4. Waking up early and reading a good book.

5. Blogging (surprised???)

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE. 

SEPARATE REAL FROM FAKE

A few days ago the family and I viewed a movie in 3D. I am always amazed by 3D and IMAX movies. They tend to create the illusion of being apart of the scene and have a way of invoking the same feelings as if you are physically experiencing the event. For example it is not uncommon for the viewer to feel as if they are actually falling when viewing an aerial scene. 

I’m conversation with the kids I used this as an example to illustrate how fear, negative thoughts and incorrect perceptions can give us the illusion of something being real, but it is not.

It is important to separate the "real" from the "fake" and let go of those fear based thoughts that do not serve our strength, instead they suppress our energy and our creativity they also make us physically, mentally and often times spiritually weak. 

On your next trip to the movies, pay attention to the way your emotions are heightened by something you know is fake.

 

One Love

Danni

 

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE

 

TOUGH TIMES

 As I lie in bed listening to my babies' breathing I cannot help but think that I have a previlage which was brutally snatched from someone else. I should never shudder with fear when I think of my baby going to school. 

I wish as a parent I could comfort my child through some of the events of these tough times. Its sad enough having to explain covid or why suicide barriers are being placed on the Manhattan and Verrazzano bridges. I too need comfort. 

As I navigate life in my own way my only source of meaning comes from my faith and trust in God. He is my only source of reason, my only source of comfort and my only source of strength. 

I call Him Source. Find the Source!!!!

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE

FINDING AND OWNING OUR OWN VOICE

 

Kaity and her lipstick filter

I remember being a little girl growing up in rural Jamaica it felt as though life was less complicated back then. When I compare my experiences to those of my children I fear the peer pressure and experiences that they have to endure at such a young age. Particularly the pressures to fit in. 

I am constantly reminding my oldest that she has to be herself, love herself unconditionally and not allow peoples opinions of her to dictate her decisions. I can already see that for her this is a struggle. 

In this world of social media and access to the lives of people we do not have relationships with but compare ourselves to, it is so important to have a deeper sense of self worth. It is also important to teach our children how valuable they are so they have the skills to rise above negative social pressures. If we as adults still struggle with this, can you imagine our children?

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE

KEEP TRYING NEVER QUIT

 PRe

I remember becoming a Mary Kay consultant and I remember quitting. But I never forgot the lessons I learned from network marketing. Here are some of the lessons I learned from my Mary Kay days. 

1. You have to believe in yourself. Self doubt kills dreams. You have to muster the confidence to step out and go after your dream. 

2. Anyone can become a pro if they practice. Practice makes perfect, but you have to put in the work. 

3. Have a strong why, determine the thing that motivates you to action and activate it when you find yourself doubting your abilities. 

4. Surround yourself with people who have similar goals and allow peer pressure to motivate your action.

5. Work hard first and you will deserve and better yet appreciate your play hard moments.

6. NEVER QUIT!!!!

Go do you. You got this. 

One Love 

Danni. 

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE

YOUR LACK OF SELFCARE IS KILLING YOU

 

Lately I have been feeling uncomfortable and extremely uneasy with my growth, career, life and the memories I am making with my children.

As moms we tend to take ourselves for granted and place the care of our children on a higher pedestal than our own self-care. However, having a clear vision for our life with a clearly defined why will help us see that neglecting self-care is more damaging to our children than helpful. We cannot pour from an empty cup. 

I find that in the moments when I am exhausted and feeling stressed, I am more snappy and grumpy with my children. Taking the time to step away, rest and unwind helps to reset my emotions and the way I show up to my family. 

Money plays a big part in our level of comfort. At times we may feel it is a double edge sword as we may feel guilty that the pursuit of career impacts our availability. I believe it is ok to delegate responsibilities and accept help as we advance in our career and be ok when others step in to help us raise our children. 

Feeding our bodies healthy meals and exercising should come naturally to us. It is important to include this as a major part of our self-care routine. I have upped my checking labels game and have decided to be more aware of what I feed myself.

Taking the inconvenient trip to the doctor when things are not right internally is critical. I know I am guilty of not going to the doctor even when I am physically falling apart.  If we want to give the gift of us being around to our children, we must respect ourselves enough to ensure we are healthy.

Take the time to look within and access our actions towards self-care. We need health, wealth and happiness.

 

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE

 

CREATING STRUCTURE AND BOUNDARIES IN PARENTING

 

 

If your kids are like my kids they love TV, video games, chips, ice-cream and pizza. If you are a mom or dad like me, the thought of the things they love makes you pull your hair out. 

Here are some ways that I have found to keep them grounded as I seek harmony in my life.

 

1. Get them involved in family meetings and decisions. Their voice is important and we want them to know that. Involving them in the discussions allows them to feel empowered to speak up and make valuable contributions to conversations.

2. Give them responsibilities and make them accountable. One of the things I did not do earlier with my kids was give them little chores around the house. As they grew older I found myself overwhelmed. Giving them responsibilities and holding them accountable allowed them to make better decisions regarding keeping the place clean and allowed them to take ownership of what they did or did not do. 

3. Have them on a schedule. This is a game changer as it allows them to know what comes next and what is expected. Getting them on a schedule will develop them into disciplined children. They will hate it at first but they will thank you later.

4. Read to them and train them to read and enjoy reading. I am a busy person and our morning commute is lengthy. This is an excellent time for reading. I must admit, getting them to read in the car and having a no phone policy does not go over well in the mornings, currently it is a developing habit. 

I hope you enjoyed these tips.

One Love

Danni

 

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE.

 

PUSHING THROUGH THE FEAR

Fear holds us back more than anything else in our lives. How many times do we fill our days with being busy and neglect those action steps that will help us more forward. 

Here are a few quotes from the book "The Millionaire Real Estate Agent" by Keller Williams that you may find inspiring and may help nudge you closer to your goals. 

1. Once you try and achieve one thing you thought might not be possible it becomes easier and easier for you to "see the impossible" and then achieve it.

2. You can't know what you are really capable of doing until you try and never give up. 

3. Doubts can truly undermine your confidence, your action and ultimately your dream.

4. Beliefs grounded in myths tend to lead to unfounded fears and a life of limitations.

5. Learn to look past your fears to the truth of a situation, investigating the myths that tend to get in the way of success.

Please share the quote that impacts you the most. 

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE. 

 

LESSONS FROM THE MAMBA HIMSELF

 

When I think of Kobe Bryant I think more of his work ethic versus his success on the court. Here are some quotes from the Mamba himself. 

1. Rest at the end, not in the middle.

2. Everything was done to get better at my craft.

3. I had to rely on skill a lot more, had to study a lot more.

4. Talk to and study the greats.

5. Increase your level of detail and obsession.

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE

FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT

I love the concept of goal setting. Setting and accomplishing goals gives us a feeling of completion. However, at times the real challenge comes after we accomplish that goal and we return to bad habits. One great example is spring cleaning, it gives a sense of completion when done, but it is often times temporary as we return to the habit of gathering clutter. I believe that a goal is not always the answer instead what is needed is an identity change. For example, I have taken on an identity as someone who does not snack. Taking on that identity has been helpful in determining my eating habits.

Here are a few things to keep in mind when thinking about your goals:

1.       Is setting this goal going to change my negative behavior or is it only dealing with the result of my negative behavior.

2.       What daily choices can I make that will lead to behavioral change.

3.       What is my desired identity and how do I adapt that.

4.       Am I taking the average route in my actions?

Bad habits give immediate gratification which is why they easily become habit. Good habits encourage putting in the work first but the results are delayed.

Try changing your identity and see how that affects your goals.

 

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE  

THE POWER OF YOUR WORDS

Have you ever wondered why most of the miracles in the bible were spoken? It is because our words are powerful. 

It is so very important to take constant inventory of what we speak, what we listen to and how we allow others to speak to us and around us. That can be in the form of our screen time and the content we consume. There was a point in time when listening to the news was destructive to me mentally and emotionally. As a result I had to turn to content that was more uplifting and positive. 

Consider the impact the words we speak is having on our own minds as we speak to ourselves. We tend to be more careless with our words when we are alone, when we are self reflecting or even self criticizing. I believe when we are desiring to grown in an area of our life it is important to speak our desires to ourselves in a repetitive way. Author and coach Marshawn Evans Daniels says " we speak what we seek until we see what we said". 

Always speak life into others. One of the pivots that I had to make as a parent was the way I spoke to my children. Sometimes when we interact with children and even our subordinates we can be carelessly disrespectful. 

Take the time to listen to yourself as you speak to others and as you speak to yourself. Begin paying attention to those conversations. Are they speaking life into yourself and others? 

One Love 

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE

UNMASKING YOUR FEAR

This week I challenged myself to take a different approach to marketing as a realtor. I had to literally talk myself through the process and the fear of failure and doubt almost had me crippled. Here are a few things I have learned about fear and doubt.

1. The feeling of fear does not mean you are on the wrong path, it means you are moving in the right direction. Continue moving ahead.

2. God always blesses our effort when we step pass our fear and move forward in faith. 

3. The voice of doubt in our head is always wrong. 

4. Successful people have developed the skill of feeling the fear and pushing through it anyway.

5. The bigger the challenge, the greater the fear, the bigger the blessing, the greater the reward.

Live in faith and not fear.

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One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE

OWNING YOUR SELF WORTH

In this time of internet browsing, facebooking and instagramming it is so important that we are clear on our standards, values and of utmost importance, knowing at the very core, who we are. 

Knowing and believing your sense of worth is central to many of the emotional challenges that we face. I personally believe that we never find validity in ourselves if we are seeking validation from someone else. We gain validity in ourselves when we keep the promises and commitments we make to ourselves. 

Here are some steps that I have taken to heighten my self worth.

1. Being clear on what I want, my standards and my values

2. Setting reasonable expectations about myself and others.

3. Setting clear boundaries with people.

4. Setting and hitting my goals and standards. 

5. Increasing proficiency in areas where I am weak. Practice makes better, better builds confidence, confidence brings success.

Happy self worthing

One Love

Danni

 

TRUSTING OUR CHILDRENS DREAM

One of the things that I absolutely love about mom and dad is that they believe in me. My ideas and dreams didn’t always align with what or who they envisioned me being. But they allowed me to be myself, make mistakes, fall, fail, learn and grow.

As parents we have to allow our children to find and form their own paths. Many times as they begin desiring career paths it is because it is their purpose and falls in line with their gifts.

Allow them to dream and blaze their own trail.

 

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE

 

ATTITUDE THATS STIFLING YOUR GROWTH

Growing up in a Christian home I always heard the biblical story of the man who gave talents to his servants. To one he gave ten talents, the other five and the other one. Then he left for a business trip. The servant with ten talents invested and got ten more, the one with five also invested and doubled his money. The one with one talent never invested or did anything instead he buried it. 

I can break this story down many ways but here is one of my biggest take away:

Recognize when your in the presence of greatness. There are times when we are placed in the presence of greatness and we are surrounded by people who are excellent at what they do. They have the skillset and are often times open to mentoring us. Instead of being coachable, instead of recognizing the opportunity to learn from the best we withdraw and seek the comforts of our own insecurities. This tends to manifest itself in us gossiping and complaining. In the end we loose the chance of being mentored.

 

Back to the story, the guy with one talent could have learned a great lesson in investing from his peers, instead his bitterness cost him his net worth.

 

One Love

Danni

 

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE. 

HELPFUL TIPS FOR RAISING KIDS

  

Our time with our little ones goes by so quickly. One day they seem to be young and dependent next day they are big, mature with a mind of their own. Even though I'm still raising young kids I cannot believe how much they have grown. 

Here are some tips that I have found to be helpful:

1. Have a daily schedule for your kids- the days when I have a schedule my life flows way better, activities go by much more smoothly. On the days when I allow them to roam the house with no purpose and structure, its chaotic and frustrating. Kids thrive on structure. It is also important to include them in these plans as well.

2. Have them write down their goals-The principles we have for our own life and career should be the same principles we pass on to our little ones. Take time to sit with them and discuss your goals for them and have them set goals for themselves. Now that Kaity is 8 we intend to include her in our family goal planning discussions.

3. Detach and assess when they are misbehaving. As parents we tend to react to our kids behaviors out of anger and frustration vs taking a deeper look into what’s causing the behavior. What I have found is, little kids act up when they are exhausted or frustrated. Older kids act up when they believe they do not have a voice. As parents and caregivers it is important to take a step back to assess the behavior.

These are three points that’s I find to be helpful. Please share your parenting tips.

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE. 

DREAMING LIKE A KID AGAIN

 

My daughter celebrated a birthday recently. When I look at her I see so much potential, the ability to grow, to excel, and to create a future that's amazing. What if I saw myself that way? What if I looked in the mirror and saw myself, my dreams, my goals and potential as raw and authentic as my eight year old self did? 

Lets bring back the youthful zest for life. Do not allow your thoughts to hold you back. We are the masters of our now and the creators of our future. 

We can do ALL THINGS through Christ who gives us strength.

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE

PUT LIFE INTO THOSE OLD GOALS

 

A few weeks ago I heard a story about an Olympic team that was dominating in their sport. Their coach was asked to explain the techniques that he had employed in coaching that aided in their performance. The coach stated that he aimed at getting his team to focus on making one percent improvements in each category of the sport. 

How does this translate to our goals? Many of us set goals at the beginning of the year as it represents a fresh start. However, as we approach February many of us have stopped working at our goals. The key is to take smaller steps which will prevent overwhelm and fatigue. 

One area that I aim to improve on is discipline and structure in raising my little ones. I enjoy reading parenting books that give great advice but cannot seem to find that hour each day to read. I have cut down my reading expectation to five minutes instead of thirty to sixty. Each morning I'm up at 4am and reading is now a part of my morning routine.  

Give the one percent change a try. Small incremental changes in each area that will boost your self confidence and over time will yield the results you desire. 

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE. 

SMALL GAIN FOR A BIG LOSS

 

A friend once told me a story of how she went to the laundromat to pick up her laundry which she had dropped off earlier that day. Just another routine day, only problem was she had to put her car on the meter which was literally outside the laundromat. She figured she would run in quickly grab her clothes and be out in no time, so she did not bother paying the meter. In less than a few minutes she was out and returned to a big costly ticket on her car. She saved $25 cents but in return it cost her a whole lot more. 

The lesson in this story is, at times in an effort to save a few we end up paying a whole lot more. I'm learning the negative effects of taking short cuts. The lessons are hard but important lessons to learn. 

I encourage you to take the long road, it pays better in the long run. 

One Love

Danni

A REATOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE.