FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT

I love the concept of goal setting. Setting and accomplishing goals gives us a feeling of completion. However, at times the real challenge comes after we accomplish that goal and we return to bad habits. One great example is spring cleaning, it gives a sense of completion when done, but it is often times temporary as we return to the habit of gathering clutter. I believe that a goal is not always the answer instead what is needed is an identity change. For example, I have taken on an identity as someone who does not snack. Taking on that identity has been helpful in determining my eating habits.

Here are a few things to keep in mind when thinking about your goals:

1.       Is setting this goal going to change my negative behavior or is it only dealing with the result of my negative behavior.

2.       What daily choices can I make that will lead to behavioral change.

3.       What is my desired identity and how do I adapt that.

4.       Am I taking the average route in my actions?

Bad habits give immediate gratification which is why they easily become habit. Good habits encourage putting in the work first but the results are delayed.

Try changing your identity and see how that affects your goals.

 

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE  

THE POWER OF YOUR WORDS

Have you ever wondered why most of the miracles in the bible were spoken? It is because our words are powerful. 

It is so very important to take constant inventory of what we speak, what we listen to and how we allow others to speak to us and around us. That can be in the form of our screen time and the content we consume. There was a point in time when listening to the news was destructive to me mentally and emotionally. As a result I had to turn to content that was more uplifting and positive. 

Consider the impact the words we speak is having on our own minds as we speak to ourselves. We tend to be more careless with our words when we are alone, when we are self reflecting or even self criticizing. I believe when we are desiring to grown in an area of our life it is important to speak our desires to ourselves in a repetitive way. Author and coach Marshawn Evans Daniels says " we speak what we seek until we see what we said". 

Always speak life into others. One of the pivots that I had to make as a parent was the way I spoke to my children. Sometimes when we interact with children and even our subordinates we can be carelessly disrespectful. 

Take the time to listen to yourself as you speak to others and as you speak to yourself. Begin paying attention to those conversations. Are they speaking life into yourself and others? 

One Love 

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE

UNMASKING YOUR FEAR

This week I challenged myself to take a different approach to marketing as a realtor. I had to literally talk myself through the process and the fear of failure and doubt almost had me crippled. Here are a few things I have learned about fear and doubt.

1. The feeling of fear does not mean you are on the wrong path, it means you are moving in the right direction. Continue moving ahead.

2. God always blesses our effort when we step pass our fear and move forward in faith. 

3. The voice of doubt in our head is always wrong. 

4. Successful people have developed the skill of feeling the fear and pushing through it anyway.

5. The bigger the challenge, the greater the fear, the bigger the blessing, the greater the reward.

Live in faith and not fear.

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One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE

OWNING YOUR SELF WORTH

In this time of internet browsing, facebooking and instagramming it is so important that we are clear on our standards, values and of utmost importance, knowing at the very core, who we are. 

Knowing and believing your sense of worth is central to many of the emotional challenges that we face. I personally believe that we never find validity in ourselves if we are seeking validation from someone else. We gain validity in ourselves when we keep the promises and commitments we make to ourselves. 

Here are some steps that I have taken to heighten my self worth.

1. Being clear on what I want, my standards and my values

2. Setting reasonable expectations about myself and others.

3. Setting clear boundaries with people.

4. Setting and hitting my goals and standards. 

5. Increasing proficiency in areas where I am weak. Practice makes better, better builds confidence, confidence brings success.

Happy self worthing

One Love

Danni

 

TRUSTING OUR CHILDRENS DREAM

One of the things that I absolutely love about mom and dad is that they believe in me. My ideas and dreams didn’t always align with what or who they envisioned me being. But they allowed me to be myself, make mistakes, fall, fail, learn and grow.

As parents we have to allow our children to find and form their own paths. Many times as they begin desiring career paths it is because it is their purpose and falls in line with their gifts.

Allow them to dream and blaze their own trail.

 

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE

 

ATTITUDE THATS STIFLING YOUR GROWTH

Growing up in a Christian home I always heard the biblical story of the man who gave talents to his servants. To one he gave ten talents, the other five and the other one. Then he left for a business trip. The servant with ten talents invested and got ten more, the one with five also invested and doubled his money. The one with one talent never invested or did anything instead he buried it. 

I can break this story down many ways but here is one of my biggest take away:

Recognize when your in the presence of greatness. There are times when we are placed in the presence of greatness and we are surrounded by people who are excellent at what they do. They have the skillset and are often times open to mentoring us. Instead of being coachable, instead of recognizing the opportunity to learn from the best we withdraw and seek the comforts of our own insecurities. This tends to manifest itself in us gossiping and complaining. In the end we loose the chance of being mentored.

 

Back to the story, the guy with one talent could have learned a great lesson in investing from his peers, instead his bitterness cost him his net worth.

 

One Love

Danni

 

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE. 

HELPFUL TIPS FOR RAISING KIDS

  

Our time with our little ones goes by so quickly. One day they seem to be young and dependent next day they are big, mature with a mind of their own. Even though I'm still raising young kids I cannot believe how much they have grown. 

Here are some tips that I have found to be helpful:

1. Have a daily schedule for your kids- the days when I have a schedule my life flows way better, activities go by much more smoothly. On the days when I allow them to roam the house with no purpose and structure, its chaotic and frustrating. Kids thrive on structure. It is also important to include them in these plans as well.

2. Have them write down their goals-The principles we have for our own life and career should be the same principles we pass on to our little ones. Take time to sit with them and discuss your goals for them and have them set goals for themselves. Now that Kaity is 8 we intend to include her in our family goal planning discussions.

3. Detach and assess when they are misbehaving. As parents we tend to react to our kids behaviors out of anger and frustration vs taking a deeper look into what’s causing the behavior. What I have found is, little kids act up when they are exhausted or frustrated. Older kids act up when they believe they do not have a voice. As parents and caregivers it is important to take a step back to assess the behavior.

These are three points that’s I find to be helpful. Please share your parenting tips.

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE.