THE WORLD AS MOM AGES

 

When you are a child, your parents are super heroes. They always seem to know the correct answer, the right path and it wasn't until I was an adult that I dared to challenge them. 

As a mom of young children, I get to enjoy being seen as a super hero, although they challenge me constantly.

What life never prepared me for was the emotions of caring for my aging parents. As I watch my parents especially mom struggle with her own health issues there are days when I feel overwhelmed and sad, days when I feel sorry for her, and days when I get upset with her. The reality of handling their affairs are challenging. 

No matter the circumstances, sharing the burden with my two brothers and being able to talk to them is plays a big role in my sanity. If you are the main caregiver for your parents, know that there are resources of those of us caring for parents or elderly loved ones.

Stay positive, focused and have gratitude always. Most importantly, shower them with love.

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR, A MOM, A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE.

FAITH FUNCTION AND EXPECTATION

A few weeks ago I was listening to an author speak about expectation, faith and our response to challenges. His theory was that our expectation dictates the way we view and handle challenges. According to him, lowering our expectation might be benificial when dealing with challenges. 

Though I sort of knew where he was going, my message is the opposite. God has blessed me tremendously when my expectation was high. It is not just faith in God, but also faith in yourself. There is nothing wrong with believing that you are worth more, that you should push yourself harder, or that you deserve more. I genuingly believe that when you have high expectations, you set high goals and have high standards and work harder, and is ultimately a better team player. 

My goal here is to encourage you to heighten your expectation and by doing so heighten your blessing. You tend to get what you expect.

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR, A MOM, A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE. 

FALLING IS NOT FAILING

If I were to write the definition of a successful person, it would be someone who fell many times, got up, dusted themselves off, and kept going. Falling is not failing. Falling is and should be seen as temporary. Our strength, our grit, our ability to persevere, to get stronger, to sharpen our skills are manifested when we are faced with challenges. 

In the biblical story of the exodus, the Children of Israel are faced with the red sea before them and the persuing army behind them, little did they know that through this experience they would witness their biggest miracle.

What is the challenge you are facing that have you feeling like you have failed? It may be a job, a business, a health issue, no matter what the challenge, allow yourself to become refined like gold. Gold can only be refined as it goes through extreme heat. My guess is that this big challenge of yours, this fall, this temporary stop is producing a finer, more refined version of you.

To my Aunt J, facing her biggest challenge yet, you will emerge stronger. I love you.

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR, A MOM, A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE.

WHAT COVID TAUGHT ME ABOUT GOAL SETTING

 

No doubt we have learned a lot in 2020-21. But what have we learned about setting and achieving our goals. Here is the most important lesson I have learned about goals through my covid experience.

The challenges of 2020/21 did put many of my goals, dreams and desires into perspective. They were tested in ways many of us never in our lifetime expected. But what I learned is that the path may change, you may be rerouted but the goal must remain the same. Even your microgoals leading up to the big goal may be modified, and that is ok, whats important is keeping our eyes firmly on the prize and still moving towards it.

So do not allow the challellenges of 2020/21 keep you feeling like giving up, or if you have fallen off the path, do not become discouraged. Get back up and find your path.

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR, A MOM, A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE.

STAYING FOCUSED, POSITIVE AND CELEBRATING

The relaxing view of the sun setting through my upstairs window.

Can you imagine we are still going through this worldwide pandemic? Inspite of all this, it may seem hard to focus, to be positive and even to celebrate. Here are some of the things that I have been doing to stay focused, positive and to celebrate.

1. I stay focused by doing checkins on my goals. I have various goals spiritual, family, wealth, health. Within each category I have steps that I take to complete these goals. 

2. I stay positive by setting a positive tone as part of my morning routine which includes prayer, bible, gratitude. I also am a big advocate of keeping negativity out. I only listen to the news to stay updated with world events, but eliminate it as much as possible. The news has a ways of invoking negative vibes. 

3. I celebrate by doing those little things that bring me and my family joy, and taking the time to reflect on those moments. An evening at the park flying our kite as a family or going to the beach with friends for me is celebrating. I also take lots of pics and reflect on these later. I ensure that I do not work on my childrens birthday and I have a small inexpensive family gathering for them. 

Although these may seem small and simple, enjoying these moments are extremely important.

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE.

ON YOUR MARK, GET SET, GO

 

We usually hear the term on your mark, get set, go. But what does that really mean? Most importantly, what does it mean to you? 

In my Jamaican culture where track and field plays a big part in our culture, we understand this term to mean "preparation and run to win". 

The small moments of winning at the olympics are usually backed by hours of preparation. 

Are we preparing for a win or is our lack of preparation bringing us towards a sure loss? I would encourge you to pay keen attention to the preparatory periods in our lives. At times we are not given opportunities, not because it wasn't for us, but because we did not fully prepare.

Prepare for your win and unleash your inner olympian.

One Love 

Danni

A REALTOR, A MOM, A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE

LESSONS IVE LEARNED IN LIFE AND PARENTING

I must admit I have been around since the 80s (I know I look younger). But throughout the years I have picked up a thing or two that I would love to share. Here are five lessons I have learned in life and in parenting.

1. Be childlike in my view of life. What I absolutely love about kids is they were born seeing possibilities, majority of our limitations came from the uninformed concepts of adults. 

2. Never take NO from someone in a position to tell me yes. That includes my relationship with God and my level of faith. (Borrowed from Mignon Francois of the cupcake collection). 

3. View the cup as half filled. Yes there is distress, chaos and problems in life, but if I focus on the solution vs the problem, the problems will be resolved. 

4. Passionately love myself. As a woman living in NYC its so easy to compare myself to others. Love myself includes loving my skin, my hair, my personality, the things that makes me different and the things that make me the same. Appreciate and love it all. Never base my perception of self on other peoples opinions of me. 

5. I have to go through situations to grow from situations. As I go through hard times it is hard to understand why I am being challenged. But looking back I am able to see how much those situations strengthened me and helped me grow. 

One Love Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE