FEARLESS FOCUSED AND TURNING 40!!!!!!

 

When I was ten years old I had one desire and that was to pass my common entrance exam which would qualify me for the 7th grade. Ten years later and my goal was just a more advanced version of my 10 year old goal. I was 20, I had dropped out of college because I could not afford it and I desperately wanted a new start. So my dream was to study abroad. A few years earlier when I left high school, I left with only three subjects. For those of you who may not understand the Caribbean or British education system leaving high school with only three subjects meant I had failed. I continued that pattern into college, not really failing but not excelling. Studying abroad meant that I could erase that past of failure and move forward. So at age 20 I worked on that goal and accomplished it. 

The years leading up to age 30 were growing years. I was working odd jobs here and there to make ends meet, living with my aunt and despirately needing my permanent residency or greencard. By age 30 I was newly married but still trying to figure out life as a wife, becoming employed, and holding my own. My 30s brought me three beautiful kids and many other blessings.

Now that I am officially 40, I feel a sense of accomplishment mixed with a burning desire to grow, stretch and excel. I have learned through the years to allow my faith to be my backbone, especially during those years of navigating the immigrant struggles on the streets of New York. 

My hope and desire is that as I gracefully navigate 40 and onwards I will become the woman that I desire to be. I will show up with excellence and grace with my head held high. I want to be fearless, focused and FORTY!!!!

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE. 

PARENTING JAR, KRIS AND KAIT

I am often times regarded as a supermom by some of my fellow moms. But honestly it is not a title I am particularly fund of. Reason being my "supermomness" comes at a very high price, exhaustion, burn out and guilt. I work, I have a business, three kids and way less self care than I deserve. 

After a long conversation with a friend who herself felt overwhelmed with parenting and wanted to hear and possibly adopt some of my strategies I have come to the realization that being a working mom is hard, and balancing climbing the success ladder while raising a family is challenging. 

So my question is how do we cope, find balance or what strategies should we implement in order to be our best selves and give of our best selves?

Pleaae share your strategies.

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF (SI) NORTHSHORE

GET UP AND GO GET IT

I love the Tyler Perry story so much. Because nothing was handed to him, he had to go out and create it. The future belongs to those who tap into their creativity.

There is no room for sitting around and waiting. Just get up, go out, and use that gift inside of you. The one that you know is longing to be unleashed.

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NOTHSHORE. 

THE ANTIDOTE TO BOREDOM

Mom I'm bored. Its not uncommon to hear my daughter utter those three words. With her everyday should be spent playing in the park and down time should be spent watching TV as much cartoons as possible. Its a never ending constant desire for entertainment. But as her mom, I am bothered by that constant desire for stimulation.

If I am going to be honest with myself, I am no different. So many times I find myself playing with my phone just searching for something to captivate my attention. 

This drive for constant stimulation drives out my creativity. It is during those down times when I forgo stimulation that I am most creative. I encourage you evaluate those moments when you move towards being entertained and instead, get personal with your thoughts, and find your inner creative moments.

One Love

Danni

THE BEAUTY OF GROWING TOWARDS THE SUN

 

When you have tried your absolute best and things seem to still move towards the opposite direction,you are in for a big blessing. 

I am learning to let go of control. So many times in our work life or even in other situations, things seem to just take the worst or sad turn. But if you are confident that you have tried your hardest, you played the right cards, and you didn't cheat the proccess, just await your blessing.

At times when the path is messy, we cannot visualize or understand its purpose when looking forward. But when we are able to pass through those moments of sadness, fear, and disappointment and look back at the past, then the blessing becomes evident.

I encourage you to step forward though your trying times with the assurance better will come.

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE. 

THE WORLD AS MOM AGES

 

When you are a child, your parents are super heroes. They always seem to know the correct answer, the right path and it wasn't until I was an adult that I dared to challenge them. 

As a mom of young children, I get to enjoy being seen as a super hero, although they challenge me constantly.

What life never prepared me for was the emotions of caring for my aging parents. As I watch my parents especially mom struggle with her own health issues there are days when I feel overwhelmed and sad, days when I feel sorry for her, and days when I get upset with her. The reality of handling their affairs are challenging. 

No matter the circumstances, sharing the burden with my two brothers and being able to talk to them is plays a big role in my sanity. If you are the main caregiver for your parents, know that there are resources of those of us caring for parents or elderly loved ones.

Stay positive, focused and have gratitude always. Most importantly, shower them with love.

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR, A MOM, A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE.

FAITH FUNCTION AND EXPECTATION

A few weeks ago I was listening to an author speak about expectation, faith and our response to challenges. His theory was that our expectation dictates the way we view and handle challenges. According to him, lowering our expectation might be benificial when dealing with challenges. 

Though I sort of knew where he was going, my message is the opposite. God has blessed me tremendously when my expectation was high. It is not just faith in God, but also faith in yourself. There is nothing wrong with believing that you are worth more, that you should push yourself harder, or that you deserve more. I genuingly believe that when you have high expectations, you set high goals and have high standards and work harder, and is ultimately a better team player. 

My goal here is to encourage you to heighten your expectation and by doing so heighten your blessing. You tend to get what you expect.

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR, A MOM, A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE.