MAJOR LESSON FROM A SMALL MISTAKE

 

A few days ago while driving with the kiddos I heard a knocking sound in my car. I did take it serious, just not serious enough to rush to my mechanic. Two days later I decided I would rush to my doctor then go to my mechanic. That day my car died.

I remember listening to an interview with Alex Trebek who stated that he wished he had paid attention to the little pain in his abdomin. We all know that lack of attention cost him his life. Its the little things that we ignore that become big issue items when ignored. 

As we approach 2022 take time to care for yourself. Selfcare is important. The visits to the nail salon, the spa or relaxation, are important. However, what I am referring to are those deeper approaches to our health both physical and mental health. The pain in the gut, the consistent burning stomach after a simple meal are just examples of those little health issues that tend to go unchecked. In 2022 make checking in with your doctor a priority and take your health seriously. 

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE. 

THANKFUL FOR ALL MY BLESSINGS

This year, this month and even today are important transitions in so many ways. As I move forward into a new  decade as I turn 40 years old this year, a new job opportunity is on the horizon and as my strength and faith are being tested, I am always mindful of the hidden blessings in lifes experiences.  Many of these challenges have put me on my knees and tested my faith, however,  I can still say THANK YOU LORD. 

Life comes with its challenges and no doubt its many blessings. Having the ability to experience both should humble us. Allow today to be a day of self reflection, gratitude and a day when we turn our thoughts to those less fortunate and determine ways in which we can meet their needs. 

Hope your thanks giving was a blessing.

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE.

PREVENTING BURN OUT WHILE PARENTING

 

There isn't anything that moves me more than my children and there is not anyone who need me more than my children. But for me to be available I have to first focus on me. I have learned in my experiences in life that you cannot show up the way you ought to, when you are tired, exhausted and burned out. 

It is important as we raise our children to have them understand and respect our space and our quiet time. Here are a few tips that have helped me to prevent burn while raising my kids:

1. Set clear boundaries- It is ok to have your children know and respect your "me time". 

2. Be firm on your NO- Kids have high expectations and often times believe that you should meet their every need. At times we as parents feel guilty when we say no. However always remember you cannot fill from an empty cup.

3. Be present when you are with your children- Do not be distracted when you should be spending time with them. Children who feel neglected will engage in negative activities for your attention. 

These are just three tips. Please share your tips for preventing burn out while parenting. 

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE

FEARLESS FOCUSED AND TURNING 40!!!!!!

 

When I was ten years old I had one desire and that was to pass my common entrance exam which would qualify me for the 7th grade. Ten years later and my goal was just a more advanced version of my 10 year old goal. I was 20, I had dropped out of college because I could not afford it and I desperately wanted a new start. So my dream was to study abroad. A few years earlier when I left high school, I left with only three subjects. For those of you who may not understand the Caribbean or British education system leaving high school with only three subjects meant I had failed. I continued that pattern into college, not really failing but not excelling. Studying abroad meant that I could erase that past of failure and move forward. So at age 20 I worked on that goal and accomplished it. 

The years leading up to age 30 were growing years. I was working odd jobs here and there to make ends meet, living with my aunt and despirately needing my permanent residency or greencard. By age 30 I was newly married but still trying to figure out life as a wife, becoming employed, and holding my own. My 30s brought me three beautiful kids and many other blessings.

Now that I am officially 40, I feel a sense of accomplishment mixed with a burning desire to grow, stretch and excel. I have learned through the years to allow my faith to be my backbone, especially during those years of navigating the immigrant struggles on the streets of New York. 

My hope and desire is that as I gracefully navigate 40 and onwards I will become the woman that I desire to be. I will show up with excellence and grace with my head held high. I want to be fearless, focused and FORTY!!!!

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE. 

PARENTING JAR, KRIS AND KAIT

I am often times regarded as a supermom by some of my fellow moms. But honestly it is not a title I am particularly fund of. Reason being my "supermomness" comes at a very high price, exhaustion, burn out and guilt. I work, I have a business, three kids and way less self care than I deserve. 

After a long conversation with a friend who herself felt overwhelmed with parenting and wanted to hear and possibly adopt some of my strategies I have come to the realization that being a working mom is hard, and balancing climbing the success ladder while raising a family is challenging. 

So my question is how do we cope, find balance or what strategies should we implement in order to be our best selves and give of our best selves?

Pleaae share your strategies.

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF (SI) NORTHSHORE

GET UP AND GO GET IT

I love the Tyler Perry story so much. Because nothing was handed to him, he had to go out and create it. The future belongs to those who tap into their creativity.

There is no room for sitting around and waiting. Just get up, go out, and use that gift inside of you. The one that you know is longing to be unleashed.

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NOTHSHORE. 

THE ANTIDOTE TO BOREDOM

Mom I'm bored. Its not uncommon to hear my daughter utter those three words. With her everyday should be spent playing in the park and down time should be spent watching TV as much cartoons as possible. Its a never ending constant desire for entertainment. But as her mom, I am bothered by that constant desire for stimulation.

If I am going to be honest with myself, I am no different. So many times I find myself playing with my phone just searching for something to captivate my attention. 

This drive for constant stimulation drives out my creativity. It is during those down times when I forgo stimulation that I am most creative. I encourage you evaluate those moments when you move towards being entertained and instead, get personal with your thoughts, and find your inner creative moments.

One Love

Danni