MY LOVE LANGUAGE LESSON

Today I contemplated the concept of love languages and it dawned on me that many of my struggles in relationships is the expectation that I have of others. I often find myself expecting the other person to display their love towards me the way I display mine. Looking back now, I missed the other person's display of love. For example my husband loves when I hug him but I am not the hugging type and instead would prefer a long conversation with him either in person or on the phone. I had to learn to hug him more and without request and he has learned to chat with me every morning while we're commuting separately to work.

One of the most important lessons I've learned is to take time to learn and appreciate the love languages of my loved ones. And also when I show them appreciation using their love language they usually return the favor in my love language. 

One Love

Danni

FIGHTING FOR THOSE MOMENTS

My oldest daughter requested that I lie next to her in bed as she fell asleep. I did think of saying no, which I am sure she would understand. But instead I hugged her until she fell asleep. It's those tiny moments, those little things, that makes life precious. 

I encourage you today to fight for those moments. Work will always be work, and the mundane things that we value as important will always be there. Those precious times with our loved ones, are the moments we never get to repeat, we can have similar experiences, but it's never the same. Determine what those precious, irreplaceable moments are and FIGHT for them.

One Love

Danni

ALL THAT YOU NEED YOU GOT

Have you ever seen the progress of someone and say to yourself, "if only I had those opportunities I would have been as successfully". Or maybe you say to yourself,  "if God would just grant me this one blessing,  I would make the most of it". Well you are not alone in those thoughts and feelings.  

Here are a few action items to move you closer to your purpose.  

• First pray for alignment with God's will and purpose for your life. 
• Remember that all the tools you need you already possess.  
• Assess your current skills, talents and opportunities and maximize on them. 
• Work on determining who you want to become in this season.  Grow from what you go through.
• Pray and ask God for guidance. 

One Love

Danni

LIFE LESSONS FROM SHELLY-ANN FRASER PRYCE

A few weeks ago I watched a video of Shelly-Ann Fraser Pryce at her son's elementary school's field (sports) day. If you don't know who Shelly Ann is, she a track superstar,  Olympic champion, world champion and one of the fastest women in the world.  At this particular event parents were asked to compete against each other in a 100m track race. Shelly Ann competed and of course she won. I found it interesting that she would even compete. But it got me thinking and here are the lessons I learned from that event. 

1. Boldly show your greatness regardless of who is at the table. Never make yourself seem small to please others. Shelly Ann never held back, even in a small friendly competition, she ran with her all as if she was on the world stage. 
2. Rise to the challenge, never back down, even when competing with someone who is considered greater than you. The moms who took on the challenge to race with Shelly Ann knew exactly what she brought to the table but they competed anyway. 
3. Always chase greatness. As these women ran they knew the bar was high and that motivated them to put their all into the competition. It is so important to surround yourself with greatness and to set the bar high for your accomplishments. 
4. Don't look back, stay focused, keep moving forward, you may just run your personal best. 

One Love

Danni

ELIMINATING NEGATIVE HABITS

 

It's not always easy to break free from those habits that hold us hostage. We sometimes self sabotage, we break our promises, we step back into cycles that do not serve us and in the end we feel unhappy, broken and guilty.  

Here are some steps I have taken to break free of some negative habits:

1. Being very clear on why I believe this habit is not serving me anymore. 
2. Thinking about the way I feel after engaging in this activity. 
3. Having a clearly defined goal. It's all about that goal and also having it written on paper. 
4. After determining the goal determine the steps needed to accomplish that goal. 
5. Removing myself from situations and scenarios that will promote that activity. 

Break free from those habits that hold is hostage. 

One Love

Danni

WAITING FOR THE BIG WIN

I am a big picture person, I will tell you the vision and you will figure out the details. My hubby will tell you how we argue from time to time about me not wanting to listen to the details of a story. I am always in a rush to get to the end. 

We live in a world where we want instant gratification. We are always desiring to have our wants and needs met instantly. However, there are times we have no other option but to wait. 

Our dreams and aspirations are no different.  Goals are rarely achieved quickly.  Success is not defined by the win,  although society makes it seem that way,  it is defined by the process leading up to the win.  Every great athlete will tell you that the unseen hours of practice and preparation is what made them great.  

One Love

Danni

FIGHTING FAIR WITH YOUR SPOUSE

When you are in a partnership with someone conflicts and disagreements are inevitable. Some people, myself included, hate conflict but is not afraid of it. However, I believe there is a science to fighting and resolving conflict that is more constructive and can help us grow. Here are some tips that I have used that have helped me to fight fairly. 

1. Taking a step back and determining the real reason for the argument. Is it the current issue being discussed or other things in the past leading up to that moment? Once that is understood I can determine the best way to address the situation. 

2. Not being afraid of apologizing when I am wrong. Sometimes I have to let that ego go.

3. Understanding that life and death is in the power of the tongue and I cannot take back my words. 

4. Choosing my responses versus reacting to my spouses behavior or words. 

5. Seeking to understand and spending time listening versus aggressively trying to get my point across. 

6. The biggest thing for me personally, is understanding the danger of using my words specifically to inflict pain. We both have the power to shred each other with our words. And if it were to go there it would inflict more pain versus resolving a problem. Once you begin fighting with a desire to hurt someone they now have your permission to retaliate. That to me is no way to solve a situation.

One Love

Danni