Lessons Learned From a One Year Old

 Winners never quit and quitters never win. In other words keep working on that craft, keep setting those goals, keep pushing forward, keep following through but most importantly, NEVER QUIT!!!!.

I watched my one year old as she climbed on the couch and fell backwards hitting her back on the ground. She cried a little as I assisted her in getting up but to my amazement she went right back to climbing up the couch. 

The beauty of children is just how fearless they are especially when they are little. At a young age the word impossible is not apart of their level of understanding. Fear and doubt in self is learned behavior. 

As a sales woman I have learned that people who tell you no usually become your best customers, so keep trying. 

What would you accomplish if you did not fear getting your feelings hurt? What would you accomplish if you knew for sure you would be successful? Stop doubting yourself, step out in confidence and go live your dream.

For my christian friends God never gave us a spirit of fear. Its in the bible go read it.

One Love

Danni

Checking In

 Earlier this week I watched a video interview of someone I went to college with. During that interview she shared the experiences she had as a child growing up. Experiences that would break anyone much less a young girl. I was surprised because seeing her from day to day she did not wear or show her experiences. 

Its covid time and for me the heaviness of the virus is taking its toll on me emotionally. If you know me, I'm always Ms. Positivity so that may seem hard for many of my close friends to believe. In a sense this blog is my Thursday night therapy. It helps me navigate the thoughts in my head. 

Now is the time to create a habit of checking in. Socially distancing and physical separation can affect us and our loved ones psychologically. Do not assume others are ok, do not assume being friends on social media means you are up to date with what's going on in peoples lives. Spend time reaching out, take the time to do a wellness check. 

You may never know the impact staying in touch may have.

This may not be a pumped up motivational blog, but I hope it inspires you to reach out to someone you haven't seen or spoken to in a while. 

One Love 

Danni

Keep Working On Those Goals

 Setting goals are easy and writing them down is also easy, what is hard is actually following through with the goals we have set. 

It is the beginning of February, do your goals still make you feel warm and fuzzy inside like they did in early January? Here are a few techniques to help you stay in winning mode.

Set micro goals- Many of us set out to accomplish large goals that may sound great in the beginning until we begin working on them. Usually a few weeks in and we are ready to throw in the towel. When we focus on micro goals it is easy  to see the results.

Celebrate the small wins- have a reward system in place and highlight your accomplishments no matter how small. 

Begin with the end goal in mind- Set a reminder in an area that allows you to see the reason for your goal. This reminds you of your why when you feel like giving up.

Forgive Yourself for Stopping- Taking a break from your goal can bring on negative feelings of doubt and lack of trust in ourselves. It is important to forgive ourselves for the temporary stops that we make on the way to accomplishing our goals.

Start Again- As the old proverb says, it is never too late for a shower of rain. If you took a pause, do not be afraid to get back up and start working on our goals again. 

Remember, totally giving up on a goal you have set and want to accomplish will leave you loosing faith and trust in yourself. If you have stopped working on your goal, restart as if it's a brand new year.

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Danni

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Danni

MAMBA MINDSET

 One thing I love about professional sports is watching people who have put their absolute best into their craft and compete against each other. I am not the most competitive person, but it may be a quality I should encourage.

It's been a year since we lost Kobe. I have to admit I love the mamba state of mind. Yes Kobe was talented, but not the most talented, yes Kobe was gifted in basketball, but not the most gifted. What separated Kobe was his ridiculous none stop drive to be his absolute best. He would never be outworked. It was that mindset, that mentality, that energy, that persistence that drove his success to dominate the courts.

The next time you watch basket ball or the superbowl, or any sports event for that matter, do not watch it just for entertainment. Watch it with a desire to take some of the habits that creates the best.

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Danni

THE: SHARPEN THE SAW PROJECT

 Lately I've been feeling stuck in various areas of my life. I figured since it's a new year and we are goal setting, now would be a good time to address the source of that feeling. 

Often times when we feel stuck either in our career, relationships or even parenting, that's usually our body telling us we need growth in a certain area. For me I was able to think through and pinpoint the source of my feeling and to address it, I formulated the "sharpen the saw" project. 

The term, "sharpen the saw" was not coined by me, instead it is a concept formulated by Stephen Covey and well documented in his book "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People". I encourage you to embark on a "sharpen the saw project" with me by:

1. Identify an area in your life where you feel stuck or there is lack of or need for more growth.

2. Find a book, video or podcast that addresses that area. For example if you want to grow in your relationship with your teen, begin reading books that talk about parenting teenagers.

3. Take notes as you discover new techniques, knowledge and ideas that can be implemented. Note- writing things down heightens our ability to remember it later.

4. Set a time or determine ways you can or will implement or apply your new knowledge. 

Don't have much time? Actually you do. We often find time for the things that are important to us. Commuting is a great time to learn. You can listen to anything anywhere. Reading on the subway for me is so therapeutic. I can get lost in a good book while commuting via public transportation. Cooking is also a great time to listen to content. Our scheduled breaks at work are also great downtimes when we can read. Find a time best for you and begin your project.

Now is the best time to invest in our personal growth. 

Please share with me how your project is coming along. 

One Love

Danni

LESSONS LEARNED IN A CRISIS YEAR

For most of us 2020 started out normal but we watched as overnight life as we knew it came to an abrupt halt. Here are five lessons that I've learned in 2020.

1. Be adaptable and flexible - for many of us, our jobs changed over night to accommodate social distancing guidelines. Many institutions grew others closed their doors. The ones that saw most success were those that found ways to quickly adapt to the new changes. 

2. Be a forward thinker- this goes hand in hand with lesson one. No one saw this crisis coming, but many individuals, organizations and business had already began implementing practices and adapting to the changing world. For example, the personal trainer who had already began doing online training prior to this crisis already had the infrastructure to market and expand. 

3. Set health goals- I cannot over emphasize this one enough. Covid exposed America's biggest dilemma. Many American's have at least two chronic illnesses and that is not ok. It begins with us as individuals taking inventory of our health and wellness. We have to be in the drivers seat when it comes to our health. It is 2021 so  let's put pen to paper and focus on what health means to us and the changes we are going to make to get our bodies healthy. 

4. Set Wealth goals- This is actually number 2 on my lessons learned priority list, health being number 1. As we see unemployment rise, what strategies are we putting in place to insulate ourselves in the wake of another crises? Again put pen to paper and begin writing not just saving goals but be audacious and set wealth goals, break your goals down into bite size pieces and work at them one by one. 

5. Think multiple streams of income - This is also another major lesson learned. I have learned this year that having one stream of income is not enough and not ok. Every single individual have talents and I believe we all have a purpose. If you have a 9 to 5 use your talents in other areas to create income, get a side hustle. There are so many people who will pay you for your skills and expertise. Become a consultant in an area that you are familiar with. If you are not confident increase your knowledge and skill set. Spend time improving on your craft then MARKET IT. 

I have learned many lessons in 2020 but these five are some of my top ones. Over time I will share the others.

One Love

Danni 

MY ENERGIZER MORNING ROUTINE

Being a busy mom of three kids ages 6 and under, it is absolutely important that I carve out time for myself. My "me" time has now become my morning routine and I absolutely love it. This routine keeps me energized throughout the day, not just physically but mentally as well. 

This is what my morning looks like:

1. I am an early to rise type of chick. My best wake up time is 4am- I find that I am clearest and most creative early in the morning.

2. I worship which involves reading my bible and praying. This allows me to be more centered, clear in my head and spiritually focused. 

3. I exercise even if it is just for a few minutes. Exercising gives me the feeling that I can conquer any and everything. 

4. I read - I recently heard an author say that he makes sure he reads a book about parenting or marriage every morning prior to reading anything else. I'm definitely going to be incorporating this into my morning routine. 

5. My absolute favorite part of my morning is breakfast. I almost always eat the same thing everyday; oatmeal, blueberry, banana smoothie made with almond milk. I have began adding more proteins into my morning like sardines (hubby says yuck!!!) or eggs (or Turkey bacon-my cheat meal) Yum!!!! I find that having breakfast latest 7am keeps me satisfied until noon.

What rituals do you have in your morning or throughout your day that puts you at ease or sets the tone for your day or night? Please share by leaving a comment. I would love to learn from you.

Can a Sistah say!!!!!

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Danni