THE REASON I'VE BEEN BANGING MY HEAD

So today I had a full conversation with myself out loud about being unhappy. I am unhappy. I am not unhappy all the time, but  I am in a very pivotal period in my life and I know that the source of these feelings is me not acting in my purpose and holding on to the thoughts, behaviors, friends and career choices that no longer serve me. It is time for me to make certain boss moves and I am reluctant and unwilling because of fear. 

It is important to know when God is nudging you. I'm at the point where He is not just nudging me, God is stirring me up inside out and it is driving me insane. 

Whenever you are in that space of dis-ease remove yourself from that current situation. You have outgrown it. That situation no longer serves you. You are instead serving your fear and your lack of faith.

Stepping out and into the place where you are destined to be will bring you joy and the abundance you deserve. 

 

One Love

Danni

 

PROVEN TECHNIQUE FOR MORE PRODUCTIVITY

The average person has little or no time to get things done these days. I have been experimenting with my time lately and have devised what I call the fifteen minutes rule for making me more effective at the things that I need to get done. 

This is how the fifteen minute rule works. Identify an area that you believe you need improvement in or something that you want to get done. Lets assume you want to get more fit. Block out time throughout your day and integrate fifteen minute workout sessions at intervals throughout the day, it may be fifteen minutes when you get up in the morning, fifteen minutes in the evening, fifteen minutes after lunch and maybe other times during the day if your job or work schedule allows. 

I have used the fifteen minute rule to complete folding my clothes or getting rid of a pile of unsorted mail. 

Give the fifteen minute rule a try and please leave me a comment and let me know if it was effective.

 

One Love

Danni

 

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE

BEING AND FEELING GRATEFUL

A few weeks ago my two older kids and I were driving through a really nice wealthy neighborhood. As we drove Kaity and I kept admiring the homes and commenting on the ones we liked. After a few minutes of this Jared chimed in very loudly and with much annoyance in his voice" why not just love your own house"? That instantly caused me to self reflect. 

I took three very important lessons from this moment.

1.  To be aware of how I present myself to my children. Admiring another home or something that someone else has does not mean you do not love your own. But that is exactly how my five year old interpreted it. Kids tend to lean into our behaviors vs our words.
2.  Be grateful with my blessings. Nothing is ever 100% perfect. I must find joy and beauty in life and the love that surrounds me and enjoy and feel the blessings these things bring into my life. 
3. Striving for or desiring bigger and better things in my life should not compromise my feeling of gratitude. 

One Love

Danni

A REALTOR A MOM A DAUGHTER OF THE NORTHSHORE. 

NO MOUNTAINS TOO HIGH

 

One of the things I love about my journey is the people who came along with me. 

Almost twenty years ago I left Jamaica for school in the US. But prior to that, I had started college in Jamaica and met some of the most amazing, hard working, girlfriends on this earth. 

Today I am celebrating one of my girlfriends. She is  the friend who like me ended up in NY and had to grow up and mature quickly. That girlfriend is someone I have grown to love, trust and respect. What I admire more than anything is her drive and determination. Talk about swimming upstream and making it, her life was never easy, but she pushed, and fought, and swam and today I am happy to say....Friend congrats on being accepted at an Ivy League to complete your PhD. You inspire and motivate me to be my absolute best. 

I love you.

One Love

Danni

CHANGE YOUR WORDS CHANGE YOUR OUTCOME

 

Today I sat stuck in traffic for over two hours. It was frustrating, long and boring. I had my three year old with me which complicated the matter even more. 

In my frustration I muttered to myself. I GOT to sit in this traffic again. I GOT to sit here stuck in the car with my baby girl. I had to leave work early for a doctor’s appointment and now I GOT to reschedule my appointment. 

What if we changed our self talk by exchanging GOT and instead say GET. 

Truth be told exchanging the word got for the word get allows us to view things from a different perspective. So instead of " I GOT to wake up", instead " I GET to wake up. Instead of "I GOT to pick my kids up from school, I GET to pick my kids up from school. Instead of I GOT to go to work, I GET to go to work. 

Many people didn't GET the privileges that we GOT.

Be thankful.

 

One Love

Danni

 

INCREASE YOUR POTENTIAL WITH POSITIVE SELF TALK

It may seem weird when people speak about the power of affirmations and positive self talk. But I honestly can testify that thinking and speaking positively to and about yourself will absolutely change your perception of self and who you become in the process. 

I tested this for myself. I was very insecure about my knowledge and expertise at work and always doubted myself to speak up in meetings or even second guessed myself with simple tasks such as sending emails. 

Here are some self talk and action steps or techniques that I have used in order to boost my confidence.

1. I tell myself that I do not have to be an expert at everything. No one is. 

2. I say to myself sometimes out loud " Danielle you know what you are doing, be confident and do not doubt yourself.

3. I tell myself that everyone makes mistakes.

4. I am finding ways to learn, grow and improve at my craft and skillset, this has increased my knowledge and my confidence

5. Here are some questions I ask myself before bed or in the morning .

• What are the four things I am grateful for today?
• What the four tasks I want to accomplish today?
• What are the four things that if I engage in these four activities I will win the day?
• What are four ways I can serve someone else or give back today? 
• What are four ways I can show appreciation to my loved ones today? 
• How do I want to show up to the world today?

6. I set limits on the habits I wish to disassociate from but have a hard time controlling.

7. Last but not least, I pray about it. Very and most important step. 

Please share your helpful techniques for affirming yourself.

 One Love

Danni

TODAY MY ASSIGNMENT IS.....

 

I felt impressed to tell this story because there is someone out there who needs to hear it. 

Before dating my husband I dated someone who I believed I wanted to marry. It was during a season in my life when I was hungry maybe too hungry for love and companionship, not to mention I felt I was getting old and it was time. When it became clear to me that this was not God’s purpose for my life I kept trying to make it work. I begged God, I reasoned with God, I prayed, I fasted I felt it needed to work my way and on my terms. But when God has a purpose for you, trust Him. One day in my season of prayer God spoke to me and told me to turn my bible to Psalm 27:14. “Wait on the LORD: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the LORD. It became clear to me that day that I needed to trust Him. Fast forward a few years and God blessed me with my life partner.

My goal today is to lead you into a season of prayer. God always opens our eyes to His purpose when we prayerfully ask with a genuine heart. “If anyone lacks wisdom ask God for it” James 1:5.

What are you yearning for in this season of your life? Ask God for it. He will open your eyes and ears to His will for you.

Lets take this week and focus in on wisdom and purpose from God. Prayerfully seek Him this week. Feel free to share your results with me privately or leave a comment for others to see.

 

One Love

Danni